A lot of people seem to think that babies shouldn’t cry. They think that, if babies cry there must be a reason and you, the parent, should be able to do something about it. But all babies cry, and some cry a lot.
Sometimes you’ll know the reason. Often you’ll try everything to stop it – change nappies, feed, rock, play – and yet nothing seems to work.
Here are some things you can try:
Let your baby suckle at your breast.
Hold you baby close, rocking swaying, talking, singing. Or put your baby in a sling, held close against you.
Rock your baby backwards and forwards in the stroller, or go out for a walk or drive. Quite a lot of babies sleep in the car. Mine all did.
Stroke your baby – undress your baby and massage with baby massage oil, gently and firmly. Talk soothingly as you do it. Make sure the room is warm. Click on the link to find out about baby massage courses in your area. http://infantmassage.org.au
Quietly put your baby down after a feed and leave the room for a few minutes. Sometimes all the rocking and singing succeeds only in keep your baby awake.
This difficult time won’t last forever. Your baby will gradually start to take more interest in the things around him or her and the miserable, frustrated crying will almost certainly stop.
Never shake your baby. Shaking makes a baby’s or infant’s head move violently. It causes bleeding and can damage the brain. Sometimes you will feel very tired and even desperate. You might feel that you are losing control and have an urge to shake your baby. But don’t, this is dangerous. Put your baby down safely in the cot or pram and calm yourself: don’t be angry with your baby. Call a family member, neighbour or friend to look after your baby while you get some breathing space.
If you are finding it hard to cope you may need some help or support – Free Call Pregnancy Birth & Baby Helpline 1800 882 436.
You have a new baby, and you are a proud parent. Do you sometimes feel excited but also a little nervous about taking care of your new baby? Then you are like most parents. Even in the first days of life, your baby is starting to find out who you are.
Research has found that very young babies know the difference between their parents and strangers. There are many changes that take place and new things to learn when you become a parent. It doesn’t happen overnight. Be patient with yourself. The love you have for your baby will help you learn to become a good parent. Just as no two babies are exactly alike, no one takes care of a baby in exactly the same way.
Be a loving parent.
Do your best.
Enjoy your baby!
Ask questions if you need help.
What’s it like to be a newborn?
I need others to take care of me.
I can’t decide things for myself.
I need someone to love, feed, hold and play with me.
I like to feel warm, and I don’t like lots of noise.
I like to be held very gently and very close.
My face may be wrinkled, puffy or red, and I may have a large head, but I’m normal.
I like to sleep a lot.
I am hungry every few hours.
I may be fussy and cry a lot.
I need my nappies changed as soon as they are wet or soiled.